Sunday, March 3, 2013

He Was Random So I Will Be Sincere

I wonder when it will be.  When will women finally stop being obsessed with their appearance, specifically with the changes in their appearance as they steamroll through life?  2014 and beyond shall be an amazing time in the timeline of the country and for women, cuz you know my girl's gonna run.  And inevitably her appearance will be a factor and topic of discussion - the bullshit "Hillary through the years" slideshows.  

I supported Obama in 2008 and 2012.  I chose him over Hillary because I felt there was a predestined order to it all - not order as in hierarchy but order as in sequence.  I felt he had to go first. I have also over these years redefined my definition of "ready."  Ready doesn't mean we can handle it but it means we need it. And yes, our sorry asses, need a woman to be President.  Sorry Joe, be VP again and history will remember you as the guy that stepped aside for love of country.

So this is how I arrived at this post.  I was insulted today by someone I (thought I) respected. An insult was leveled at my appearance in a picture taken while I was out for the day with my kids.  So boom.  You didn't look good.  I work my ass off full time (as an aside his wife stays home with the kids) and take care of house and home and kids, but let me throw a punch at you and remind you that despite all you try to accomplish - you didn't look so good in this picture.  Two steps forward, three steps back.  It wasn't just the insult or said it but it was the cold realization that I suppose it will always be about what we look like.  Oh and for the record I look damn good for 41 and two kids. But who the fuck cares? With that one comment from someone that hasn't been part of my life for close to twenty years nothing else mattered for just that brief moment.

The insult was random but my response to it is sincere. After I let the sting wear off I remembered - no one can make you feel inferior without your permission. We all know that quote - I think it is attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt.  We've heard it a million times.  But do we really live by it? Let's not give them permission.  Women (and non misogynistic males) are going to need to lock arms tightly over the next 4 years and beyond.  There is a fight of a generation coming and it has to be the only close up we are all ready for.

So thanks for the insult - it made me write.